What will happen when you decide that your happiness does not depend on your conditions?
We all want to have a life full of happiness and fulfillment. The quest for happiness is at the center of the concerns of each of us today. How to be happy in today’s world? Are there tricks to be happy, to be satisfied or to be fulfilled? Does a happier and more fulfilling life require sacrifices to be made?
Do you have to do or have something or someone you love to be happy? In fact, what is happiness? If you look at the world today, it seems that happiness remains unattainable for most of us.
What is happiness? What does it mean to be happy?
According to the Meriam-Webster dictionary:
1) Happiness is a state of well-being and contentment: Joy
2) Happiness is a pleasurable or satisfying experience.
We believe that happiness is a state where suffering, fear, anxiety or worry and trouble are absent. This is absolutely not the case because contrasts are an integral part of life. We cannot separate the big from the small, the hot from the cold, etc. It’s all part of our life experience. How do I know I am in good health if the disease did not exist? How do I know that I want something if the absence of this thing did not exist? If that were the case, it would be impossible to want the thing you want to have.
You can be successful in one part of your life and be unhappy in another. Our experience of physical life is thus made. We need to make sure that we understand this in order to have a happy life.
If there is something that most of us do not accept is the realness of happiness until it manifests.
“Everything that everyone desires is for one reason only: they believe they will feel better in the having of it. We just want you to understand that you must feel better before it can come to you.”―Abraham Hicks
So if we can be happy before we get the things we want then happiness does not depend on those things. Happiness is an integral part of who we really are. Happiness must be non-physical.
“Happiness is your true nature. It is not wrong to desire it. What is wrong is seeking it outside when it is inside.” ―Sri Ramana Maharshi
Happiness is what we really are. Happiness is unconditional. We can reach it when we want and it does not depend on our environment.
Happiness is Source Energy. We can reach it when we want and it does not depend on our circumstances. It is when we look for it in our environment that suffering appears and all kinds of drama that most people experience.
Can you choose to be happy?
What is unconditional happiness? Is it possible to focus on happiness even if the circumstances around you are not in your favor? The answer is yes.
“All conditioned things are impermanent — when one sees this with wisdom, one turns away from suffering.” —The Buddha
What does unconditional happiness mean? This means that the world we observe is not the source of happiness. Whatever your current state, maybe you are a billionaire, a beggar, a president, a king, a brigand, a sage, etc, is not something we can rely on to seek happiness. These are just life experiences and not a permanent state of happiness. Happiness is the support on which everything is based, whatever the current experience that you are living. Happiness remains unchanged and permanent. You can achieve happiness regardless of your current situation.
“Happiness is inherent in man and is not due to external causes” —Ramana Maharshi
Happiness does not depend on your current circumstances, it is your permanent state and which is always attainable. If someone tells you that you have to do this or that to be happy, you’re going in the wrong direction. There is nothing you can do to be happy because it is your permanent state and you cannot condition what-you-really-are.
What needs to be done, however, is to get rid of what is not permanent. Turn your point of attention to what-you-really-are, that is to say inward, and you will see that happiness is within your reach at any time, whatever your present circumstances. This is unconditional happiness.
When I say, get rid of what is not permanent, it doesn’t mean you have to leave the society where you live in and go live in the jungle. No, that’s not it at all. This does not mean that you should not be interested in material things. No, that’s not it at all. A human being cannot live without these material things. It is an integral part of this physical world in which you live.
What you need to do is take advantage of these material things and at the same time direct your focus on WHAT-YOU-REALLY-ARE. As human beings, we are not used to doing this. We are so attached to our material things and we have completely neglected WHAT-WE-REALLY-ARE, that’s why there are suffering, anxiety, and fear, etc.
The mind is the cause of everything
Every day your mind receives tons of thoughts and if you don’t control all of this information and filter only what is important to you, then you are living like an automaton.
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.” ―Buddha
Be vigilant and watch your mental conversations and discover, sort and select what you want in your life experience. It will create meaning in your life because you will understand that it is you who is creating your own reality. You will attract all the circumstances, all the people, all the resources and all the opportunities to help you reach your goals faster than you can imagine.
“Remember, life is an ongoing process of creation. You are creating your reality every moment.” ―Neale Donald Walsh
The creation process never stops. Through your imagination, your mental conversations, you are constantly creating. Start changing your mental conversation now and you will see that your life will change accordingly. Direct your mind to what you want to experience and live your life fully with passion and satisfaction. Otherwise, you will find yourself far from your goal and you will do other things that you do not like in order to fill your life.
“The tongue like a sharp knife kills without drawing blood.” ―The Buddha
When you observe your mental conversations and find that they are negative, stop immediately, point your thoughts to something you like. You are a machine that thinks and talks with itself mentally. Without being clear about who you are, you cannot deliberately choose and feel the life you want to live. You will not experience true satisfaction and fulfillment if you let your mind wander in the direction of what you perceive in your external environment. Your external environment is constantly changing, but you have the choice to direct your mental conversations in the direction you want.
“The mind is the friend of those who have control over it, and the mind acts like an enemy for those who do not control it.” ―Bhagavad Gita
True happiness and fulfillment are not in this physical world, but nothing is stopping you from having what you want. The creation process is mental. Go inside yourself and imagine the life you want to experience and you will see that happiness is within your reach at all times.
Persistence and Expectation
As in any change of habit, this requires the art of constant practice for consistent results.
“In Buddha’s opinion, to train in staying open and curious—to train in dissolving our assumptions and beliefs—is the best use of our human lives.” ―Pema Chödrön
When you start to control your mind by having a sustained and assiduous focus on the object of your desire that you want to achieve, you will notice small changes in your daily reality.
From time to time, old habits can come back, but don’t give up, stay focused on your goals. Know that the mind does not like change, this is why you have to be diligent in practice, it is the beginning of all change.
Great masters know very well the art of persistence because they know that it is the key that opens all the locks towards the change of mental habits.
Relief is the beginning of the end of conditional happiness. When you are familiar with your mind, you know WHO-YOU-REALLY-ARE, you feel deep relief.
“Don’t seek healing, just seek relief. Don’t seek improvement, just seek relief. Don’t seek solutions, just seek relief. Just hold in your mind the idea of the Stream that is flowing mightily towards all of the things you want.” ―Abraham Hicks
Now you know that you can accept yourself as you are, with your qualities and your faults. And there is nothing spectacular to know this as a human being. Any psychologist can tell you the same thing.
However, what changes in my remarks is that; now you know that your physical appearance is just a garment that you are temporarily wearing. You are eternal Source Energy living in a physical body and you are happy forever. The contrasts are fleeting and you now know how to deal with them.
I hope that through this article, I brought you a little bit towards this mysterious world which is the mind. And in conclusion, I let you meditate on the quote below because it is only you who is the master of your life.
“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.” ―The Buddha
No one else can do this job for you, you are the only captain of your ship. You are able to safely bring it to its destination!
When you are relaxed, calm and you know that you are the creator of your own reality, you become 100% responsible for what is going on around you. But be aware of this term of responsibility. You are responsible in terms of vibrational energy but not on what is happening on the physicality around you. We are all cooperative elements.
So you have more clarity on the process of creation. You know that your happiness does not come from outside of you but it is you who produces what is happening around you. What you feel corresponds to the clarity of your wishes. You are on the same wavelength as your wishes. That is to say, you know what you want deep inside of you and you know that you are on your way. You know that the environment of the moment in which you live is transient.